i’ve always wanted to start a wedding blog – a place where i can pen my thoughts at every stage of preparation for my ‘happily ever after’. However, i never seem to be able to get down to it due to the workload i’m currently struggling with.
2 to 3 months more to The Day, the urge to pen down my thoughts intensified. I’ve been doing quite a bit of self-talk simply because i have no time to blog. Having quite a bit of pent-up emotions, i decided to put away the must-dos for tonight to spend time on what i am doing now.
I think this is going to be a very long entry and i wonder who will have the patience to read it. Personally, the purpose of blogging is to remind me, many years down the road, of the emotions and feelings involved in preparing for the wedding. When we become husband-and-wife, the passion may fade, we may not be as close as before, these memories serve as a reminder to us why we chose to be together in the first place.
Our wedding preparations started as early as last year, from March 2008 when he proposed on 29th Feb.
Things we have accomplished to far
1) Set the wedding date – 28 November 2009, Saturday
2) Wedding Lunch Banquet – Crowne Plaza Terminal Three
3) Bought our wedding bands
4) Bought our dream bed
5) Decided on my Bridal Gown designer – Margaret Brides
6) Decided on his suits – Dickson Tailor
7) Photographer – Kelvin from Lighted Pixels
Food tasting and Meet-the-Parents session
9) Invite cards
10) Bought our house which will be ready in 2011
I guess the most memorable experience so far was our first fitting for gown and suit, as well as photography.
First Fitting
The feeling of seeing myself in my very own gown was simply indescribable. Not fantabulously gorgeous but the fact that i donned a wedding gown was awesome.
This session also motivated me to start losing weight for The Day. Feedback on my choice of gowns varies – some say that they are too plain, some said that the evening gown is too simple. However, i decided that i like them as they are because in actual fact, i’m a very simple girl. I will look rather out of place in elaborated make up, hairdo and dresses. =)
Photography
Photography was fun. We had our photography session in June during our holidays. It was a great experience although it was really exhausting. We met up with the photographer to discuss the venue and concept, and proceeded to look for various ‘props’ we thought might come in handy for the pictures, such as picnic basket, sun glasses, bubble guns etc. We even rented our dream wedding car for the photoshoot! I will always remember how Ben’s mommy and myself tried to tie the flowers to the car on our own! We even went to East Coast Lagoon to ask for used tin cans just because i have this fantasy of having a wedding car with tin cans dangling behind. Elaine even helped us to write the words ‘Just Married’ on a cardboard in place of the typically used car plates. On the actual day, we booked a room in New Majestic Hotel for the photo-taking and enjoyed the hotel stay thoroughly. =)
In Majestic Hotel
On the way to Changi Board Walk for the photoshoot (Bridal Bouquet from Green Point Flowers)
Minor makeover of his room
Since our house will only be ready in 2011, we will be staying at his place after our marriage. Hence, we are still in the midst of doing up his room. Progress so far? We did a built-in wardrobe and went ahead in painting our room a dark shade of purple despite opposition from both of our parents. We bought a TV and installed cable. Work is still in progress but we are already loving it. I love love love the view from the room. Shall share on this blog once i upload the pictures from my newly purchased camera!
Amidst all these preparations, i’m glad that he is always by my side. I have heard horror stories of girls complaining that their other half do not care about the wedding preparations. I thank God that Ben plays his part very well right from Day 1 of the preparations. In fact, he did more work than me. Things like looking for my wedding shoes, calling up bridal studios and hotels to make appointments etc.
We did not have any major disagreement when it comes to making decisions, be it major or minor. We both understood what each other wanted, and we make compromises.
Along the way, we also learnt to be more realistic – many things that we originally wanted for the wedding had to be given up due to financial constraints and we have to learn to deal with our own disappointments.
I think for every bride-to-be, the stress level builds up as The Day draws near. Just like any couple, we do have our own share of quarrels, be it wedding- or non-wedding related. Having to handle the heavy workload, topped with wedding preparations, frustrations do build up and sometimes i just wanted to give up and don’t care anymore.This wedding preparation also taught us that a wedding is just about the two of us. We have to please so many other people and it does get pretty irritating at times.
Insecurity thoughts like ‘Am i really going to give myself to this man and spend the rest of my life with him?’, ‘How will life be after marriage?’ , filled my mind. Questions which will never be answered. Some may say if i am unsure, why get married? I guess it’s got nothing to do with me being unsure. It is more of wedding anxiety, Ben always says.
The key is to always spend time reminding yourself why you decide to get married in the first place. Then will you be more clear-minded when negativity strikes.
For now, we will do our very best to make the wedding a successful one. I want to look back and recall this beautiful episode and let it etch beautifully in my heart.
Will continue to update this space =)
