what is the greatest act of love one can perform?
romeo&juliet’s love for each other is enough for them to end their lives.
in reality, we do know that there are indeed countless suicide cases caused by broken relationships.
i’m fortunate enough that friends around me are emotionally strong and rational enough not to resort to those ways to end the pain and trauma.
to me, the greatest act of love is to respect the other party’s decision without holding him/her back, even though it means immense hurt on your part. to be cliche, the greatest act of love is to wish the other party happiness and watch him/her move on, while you struggle to cope with the adjustments in your new single life. those who have been through this know that it’s easier said than done.
very often after break ups, we go through cycles of depression…For weeks or even months, we try to live life per normal, we act strong in front of others, we try to stay happy and cheerful… but when we are alone, we sink into depression and tears just flow uncontrollably… this period of emotion roller coaster is the toughest i guess, especially we see our other halves adjusting very well with their new found freedom/new found love.
but it’s often during this time that we girls realized our threshold of pain. we realized that we are stronger than we thought. very often in a relationship, we think that we cant live without the other party… but after a break up, we realize it’s not true at all. the earth still revolves… and when we cry ourselves to sleep, we would still need to struggle to get out of bed the next day, despite feeling as if our bodies weigh tonnes heavier than the night before.
stay strong my dearest girls… you all know that it’s just a process. you can do it.
the pain will never go away… but you will grow to be numbed to it.
one day, when you look back, you will smile because you know that you’ve truly loved with all your heart, and you will not have any regrets.
